You used the communication tools—stayed calm, listened well—but your partner still reacted the same. For Asian Americans, Korean Americans, third culture kids, and expats living in Asia, emotional regulation often carries extra weight. Cultural dynamics, unspoken expectations, and identity struggles can all show up in relationships. In this blog, Asian therapist Samuel Kim shares how learning to self-regulate can create emotional safety, even when conflict arises. At Oak and Stone Therapy, we support individuals and couples navigating cross-cultural stress, identity challenges, and relational disconnection.  

Talking about mental health with your Asian family can feel confusing and painful, especially when cultural stigma and generational silence get in the way. Whether you're Taiwanese, Chinese, or part of the Asian American diaspora, therapy can help you make sense of your experience and find support that honors both your emotional needs and your cultural background. Based in California and Taipei, we offer culturally sensitive therapy in English and Mandarin

Growing up as an Asian American in Los Angeles, Pasadena, or the Bay Area, it can be a common experience to be confused with another Asian person. Oak and Stone Therapy explores these racial experiences and emphasizes the importance of being fully seen and known.

Growing up with wealth in an Asian American family in Los Angeles, Pasadena, or the Bay Area can bring unique pressures and complexities. Oak and Stone Therapy explores these dynamics and offers support for a healthy relationship with inherited wealth.

The conversation around boundaries is everywhere, but often misses a crucial point: true boundary setting isn't about controlling others, it's about defining and enacting your own responses. Many online discussions frame boundaries as demands on others ("You can't do that!"), but what happens when those demands aren't met? At Oak and Stone Therapy, we understand that helpful boundaries empower you to create your own peace and safety, regardless of external reactions. Setting and reinforcing these limits, especially for Asian Americans, is about making conscious choices about how you'll respond to different behaviors, ultimately fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Read on to explore how focusing on internal agency can lead to profound relational shifts.