You Were Never Meant to Mother Alone: Therapy for Moms Matter

That 2 a.m. feeding. The ache in your back. Holding your baby and crying without knowing exactly why. The way you love, don’t feel love, and fear can hit you all at once.

This is the raw, unfiltered reality of motherhood.

Not the polished version we scroll past online. Not the matching outfits and picture-perfect routines. But the version where you’re trying your best while wondering if it’s enough. Where the mental to-do list never ends. Where part of you misses the woman you were before this all began.

And no, that doesn’t make you selfish. That makes you human.

You Were Never Meant to Be Perfect

Donald Winnicott, a pediatrician and psychoanalyst, offered a gift to mothers everywhere when he introduced the idea of the “good enough mother.” The idea that your child doesn’t need you to be flawless. They need you to be real. Present. Attuned, even when tired or unsure. That your imperfection isn’t harmful — it’s what teaches them resilience, repair, and relationship.

But let’s be honest — knowing that doesn’t always make the weight of motherhood feel lighter. Sometimes the days blur together. Sometimes your joy and your grief sit right next to each other. And sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you still feel invisible.

Therapy Is a Space Just for You

At Oak & Stone Therapy, we work with mothers who are doing everything they can—and still feel like something is unraveling beneath the surface.

You don’t have to have a diagnosis. You don’t need to be falling apart. Therapy is for mothers who are quietly holding the world together, but wondering when someone will hold them.

Here’s how we help:

• Space for the full range of your emotions
  There’s no pressure to be composed here. Rage, numbness, guilt, wonder, sadness—whatever you’re holding, it belongs.

• Reconnecting to yourself
  Who were you before motherhood? And who are you becoming? We explore identity shifts and help you rediscover the parts of you that still matter.

• Coping with the mental load
  From overstimulation to decision fatigue to that invisible checklist running in your head—we’ll work on building practical tools and internal boundaries.

• Self-compassion and boundaries
  You’re allowed to say no. You’re allowed to ask for help. You’re allowed to protect your peace—even when the world tells you to push through.

• Breaking old patterns
  If you’re parenting in ways that are different from how you were raised, that’s sacred and often lonely work. You don’t have to carry that alone.

• Support through postpartum and beyond
  Whether you just had a baby or have school-aged kids—your emotional needs still matter. There’s no time limit on needing care.

You’re Still Allowed to Need Something for Yourself

You don’t need to hit a breaking point to start therapy.

You don’t have to “prove” your struggle or justify why it’s hard.

If you’re craving space—to breathe, to reflect, to be seen as more than a caretaker—you deserve that.

We’re here when you’re ready.

And no, you don’t have to do this alone.

At Oak & Stone Therapy, our team of Asian American therapists combines these somatic approaches to help you create lasting change in your brain, emotions, and body. By integrating experiential therapies into your healing process, you can create a path toward recovery that honors the intricate connection between your mind and body. Remember, healing is possible, and you deserve to thrive. Reach out to one of our Restoration Therapy, EMDR, & Brainspotting therapists in Los Angeles, California & Washington today.